Friday, May 31, 2013

That's What It's All About

You put your left hand in, you put your left hand out, you put your left hand in, and you shake it all about.. Some days I wish the Hokey Pokey really WAS what it was all about, cuz I sure can turn myself around! Trying to remember why we're here, what my 'job' is as a parent (more specifically, a MOTHER), as a wife, and as a friend. In our society and crazy busy lives, it is sometimes lost in the shuffle.  In my rat race, sometimes I lose site of His greater purpose. I have to constantly remind myself, Love God, Love others.. Love God, Love others.  How do I do this correctly? I mean, I think I do! But, do I do it for the right reasons, or with the proper heart? 


" I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."


I have run across this quote numerous times, and I LOVE it EACH time I read it, but it REALLY speaks to me today! It helped me to put some things I've been struggling with into perspective, and reminded me that, although I'm not prefect, I am not failing. 

Gift giving is an area where (I feel) I excel.  The cards, wrapping, thought, and sentiment are always customized to the recipient. I think about their current needs, the person that they are, and what they would truly appreciate. I research by looking into scripture for the meaning and purpose behind occasions and gifts. I take careful thought, time, and effort in presentation. I always walk away feeling good about my delivery. Sometimes, I worry that if it brings me too much joy when giving a present, then I'm only doing it for me. However, I have to tell myself that if they enjoy it just as much or more than I do, then it's a successful mission. 


Where I sometimes struggle, is with my words. Not in finding them, but in choosing them! I have a quick wit, and sharp tongue. There are occasions when the things I say effect people in a way I never intended. I recently had a conversation with one of my friends, where she let me know I had unintentionally hurt her feelings based on observations I had been making. I was concerned about her and some of the choices she was making. I felt I had approached it carefully and gracefully, but the truth was she just didn't want to hear it. In some ways, she was right. It's none of my business! I am allowed to be concerned about her, I can mention it to her if (after prayer) I feel it is really necessary. But after that, I have to let go and let God! If I am still concerned, I need to continue pray for her and know that she is in God's hands. Bringing it to her attention every time I see it happening doesn't make her feel good, doesn't solve anything, and puts a wedge in our relationship. We all have our journeys to travel, and WE get to choose how we get there. And, Lord knows, I don't want anyone telling ME which path to take! Don't they deserve the same privilege and respect? Let my words and actions show Christ's love.

It all boils down to figuring out what you feel is the most important for you and your family and doing that! (and remember that it is ALWAYS ok to change the focus with the seasons of our lives) Read a great post this morning on a different perspective: Gina at The Shabby Creek Cottage talks about paying attention to some life lessons from and unexpected source. Since I had already been thinking about this topic, I really enjoyed her view. Why is it when we grow up, our focus changes, and we let other people tell us what is important? I don't need to compare myself to the mom down the block, or the CEO down the hall. I need to pay attention to what my children are (and aren't) saying to me. I need to make sure that I am fulfilling mine and my family's needs. I need to encourage people in their strengths, and rely on God to fill my weaknesses. I need to remember we are all a work in progress.